#that i feel guilty that their health is slipping bc i can't bully them into better behavior

[be-a-cute-scientist]

i'm just so goddamn tired of crisis mode

[askanonbinary]

I came out as les in jan, and bc I'm lucky, I also realized I'm nb. I'm so scared. 2 ppl know, an internet & a irl fren who r closeted. I'm also now getting bullied bc I'm gay. What will happen if i tell them I'm a different gender? I feel guilty telling my parents. I'm already so screwed up, I don't want this to be another thing to the list. What if ppl refuse to say my preferred name and pronouns? I can't tell anyone but it hurts so bad to be in the closet and I'm scared I'll be here for years

This is gonna be hard advice but if you think that you will be in danger for coming out, I really don’t think you should. But if you do, its an unfortunate reality for trans folk that our names and pronouns will inevitably be refused by some if not many people... I am very fortunate to live in a very liberal and friendly area, and even I have to make a point to make sure my name and pronouns are respected. 

That being said, you do decide to come out to your parents or friends and they treat it as “another thing on the list”? Screw them man, you are never a burden for who you are. The closet is lonely and scary, yes, but its not permanent. If you are young, I can understand that a few years seems like forever, but once you live out those few years? You’ll look back and realize how fast that time slipped by, and hopefully by then you will be if not in a happier place then at least one where rejection by your loved ones isn’t as much of a concern as it once was.

Basically, this: whether you do or don’t come out is a decision I will not make for you, because you know your situation best. The best advice I can give is not to if you feel you are unsafe, or feel unable in any way to handle any possible backlash while maintaining your mental health and comfort. I wish you the best of luck, anon.

-Kan